Don’t Chase Love – Cut to the Chase

We were led to believe love was a mystery, that it was impossible to understand. You’ve been wasting years trying to find a smidge of that promised happiness and the one partner who would truly get you. We have manual instruction books for our cars, why not for love? We hire personal trainers to educate us about our bodies, why not get a book and start training those relationship muscles?

All answers in one place and a guide where to look further for an even deeper understanding. Take a peek in the Freebies below and get a sense of what is expecting you here, in the main book, now available here online and in paperback on Amazon.

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We were led to believe love was a mystery, that it was impossible to understand. You’ve been wasting years trying to find a smidge of that promised happiness and the one partner who would truly get you. We have manual instruction books for our cars, why not for love? We hire personal trainers to educate us about our bodies, why not get a book and start training those relationship muscles?

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8 reviews for Don’t Chase Love – Cut to the Chase

  1. @slytherinshare

    5.0 out of 5 stars
    I’ll pop the kettle on, let’s have a chat… how’s your love life?
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 12 December 2020
    Verified Purchase

    Are you looking for a book about relationships that doesn’t trot out the old ‘Women are from Venus…’ trope?
    This book by D.M. Webb-Benjamin reads like a transcript of a conversation – but not like a speech but rather like a recording of a chat between you and her as you sit in a cafe over a coffee or a meal.
    The words are written like she wants to give you advice but is also aware that not all her words may apply to you and is willing for you to reject her statements.
    Whilst her main focus is on the female POV she uses it to also explain how a male thinks by using her own personal experiences and of those she has loved and encountered in her life.

    If you prefer advice as conversational prose this is the book for you.

    If you were expecting an easy answer or encyclopaedic answers to it all the questions about love and relationship – sorry but no one can do that, but Webb-Benjamin does give it a good go.

  2. little_blue_cornflower

    5.0 out of 5 stars
    I couldn’t put it down.
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 7 December 2020
    I’ve read another book based on male-female attraction (Empowered Wife) and while I enjoyed that, I felt it was quite brief and filled out with lots of examples. I’ve also followed some ‘High Value’ philosophy stuff. Those resources were helpful, however THIS book goes much more in detail with a slightly different flavour and covers a wider range of aspects, from different areas of psychology. The author has obviously done her research but what makes the book special is her personal story – which is very raw – clearly she has lived these lessons herself. It’s prompted a lot of deeper reflection even since finishing. While she obviously has her views, she encourages us to find what is right for us as individuals and make our own rules, something I’m exploring.
    One person found this helpful

  3. J. Borst

    5.0 out of 5 stars
    A honest, chatty guide to better relationships
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 17 November 2020
    If you look back at your relationships and find that your romantic relationships haven’t been positive for you, this is a powerful tool which will help you move to somewhere better.
    This is a very honest, thoughtful guide and will move you and empower you – it has clearly been written by someone who has learnt from her experience. It will help you avoid mistakes and become happier.
    One person found this helpful

  4. AC

    Eye-opening and well written
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 11 December 2020
    You notice immediately that the author put an incredible amount of work in it, spoke with various different people, listened a lot, read other books on that subject and now really knows what she is talking and writing about. More importantly though, she starts out with her own experiences, her childhood and her own relationships, which gives the book not only a very personal touch but also shows that she has learned a great deal about relationships from her own past.
    She explains our „love patterns“ and why we keep falling in love with the same type of men/women, even though they might not be good for us, and I thought „Oh wow, you are so right! I never even realized that before.“ And that may well be the most important lesson of this book; because only by eliminating the cause of your pain and troubles can you start all over again and do better.
    The book definitely changed my view on dating and relationships and I’m sure I will try to put some of her advice into practice and see what the future will bring.

  5. Amazon Customer

    A must read!
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 19 December 2020
    From start to finish, I love this book! A MUST READ for anyone who is single, dating or married and wants to improve their relationship. Dasha is so engaging, from her personal anecdotes to her witty one-liners.
    Her style of writing is like she’s talking to a friend. I love that she is straight to the point but also references supportive links if you wish to delve further into the topic at hand.
    Dasha’s experience in relationships makes her an authority in her niche.
    She considers the struggles of both genders and is not biased to just women. She explores what men and women truly need, not what they want, and sets exercises for you to learn from. She empowers both women and men and teaches you how to have a truly healthy relationship.

  6. Paulina Sygulska

    Here’s “Men are from Mars, women are from Venus” for the 21st century!
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 27 November 2020
    What do women and men actually need as opposed to want? In what ways have both genders been mistreated by society and how to rectify that? This book is pretty much essential for those willing to invest all it takes to understand firstly themselves and secondly their partner, and to build a happy and lasting relationship as a consequence. Dasha weaves her personal story and experience with clever, actionable advice while maintaining a chatty, accessible tone. Great Christmas read!

  7. Amazon Customer

    Tells it like it is!
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 18 December 2020
    If this book was around 25 years ago it would have saved me a lot of trouble (but very comforting to have my own hard won lessons confirmed within the pages)! For anyone that has struggled with boundaries, feeling like they were ‘too much’ (or too little) in relationships, or if you’re still waiting Prince Charming to save or complete you – this is essential reading.

  8. Sharon N.

    Clears the fog!
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 14 December 2020
    The author writes with energy and passion, allowing one to feel a level of connection through the sharing of her own experiences, many of which are painful. This helps one feel less alone in their own reoccuring relationship issues. Having regularly found myself going around in circles where relationships are concerned, I found this book insightful and non judgemental. It’s good to have ones eyes opened and view things from a different perspective!

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WHATS INSIDE?

  1. FOREWORD
  2. SEINFELD ON STAGE (end of first episode): WHAT DO MEN WANT?
  3. AN OVERVIEW OF A HEALTHY VS. UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
  4. ACKNOWLEDGING WHAT WE’VE BEEN THROUGH
  5. MY WORLD AND MY STORY
  6. PART 1 – ALL ABOUT LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS
  7. DO NOT SKIP – THE BEST SHORTCUT TO EVERYTHING
  8. HOW TO END THE WAR BETWEEN THE SEXES?
  9. WHAT DO MEN NEED?
  10. WHAT DO MEN WANT?
  11. WHAT DO WOMEN NEED?
  12. WHAT DO WOMEN WANT?
  13. WHAT DO BOTH MEN AND WOMEN NEED?
  14. THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN
  15. THE ISSUES BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN
  16. THE FIVE PILLARS OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
  17. LOVE, CARE, TRUST AND RESPECT
  18. COMMUNICATION MIRACLES FOR COUPLES
  19. AN OVERVIEW OF A HEALTHY VS. UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP (AGAIN)
  20. LOVE
    1. An unexpected twist
    2. How we learn about love
    3. What is love?
    4. Stages of Love
    5. Who do we fall in love with
    6. The difference between love and falling in love
  21. SEX
  22. THE FEMININE AND THE MASCULINE
    1. How (not) to date
  23. TOOLS FOR BUILDING AND KEEPING A STRONG RELATIONSHIP – THE CONTRACT
  24. MAP TO FINDING A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
  25. PART 2 – ALL ABOUT YOU
  26. WHY WORKING ON YOUR ISSUES AT TIMES DOESN’T WORK
  27. THE SUM OF ALL PARTS (IS YOU)
  28. THE ROOM
  29. “YOU HAVE TO LOVE YOURSELF BEFORE YOU CAN LOVE SOMEONE ELSE”- YES, BUT HOW THE HELL DO I DO THAT?!
  30. THE BACKGROUND STORY TO MY ROOM
  31. DEEPER ON BOUNDARIES
  32. VULNERABILITY – THE KEY TO MAKING REAL CONNECTIONS IN LIFE
  33. LOVE OF HIGH EMPATHS
  34. FEMININITY VERSUS SEXINESS VERSUS FEMINISM
  35. WE ARE WHAT WE THINK
  36. PART 3
  37. CUTTING TO THE CHASE – PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER
  38. WHAT DO WE NEED TO KNOW ABOUT OURSELVES
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    3. Improving sex
    4. Love and dating
    5. Troubled childhoods
    6. Learning to be happy
    7. Further reading, understanding and building yourself
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  41. EXERCISES IN ONE PLACE